In Access we talk about taking on other people’s energies. It not only applies to other people’s energies…it can also be other things, not just people. And it’s a two-way street.
I had a “smack-me-in-the-face” kind of illustration of this recently. I just love when those show up for me to say, “Oh! That’s what that’s like!”
So, my boyfriend and I have a puppy. (We also have 3 older dogs, but that’s not so much relevant here.) Molson is 1 year old. He spent the majority of the fall at the trainers. He learned quite a bit. The trainer said that he wasn’t sure Mo would work out and that maybe it would be best to get rid of him.
When we brought him home, he was very nervous and high-strung. When we walked him, he bounced like a super ball. When we took him to the park to run & burn off energy, he wouldn’t leave our sides. We couldn’t have him out in the house because he would bounce off the walls!
My boyfriend started to worry about Mo’s fate. Would he be able to hunt with him? Would he ever be able to be part of the family? Would he ever stop bouncing off the walls? Would he have to get rid of him?
He chose to talk with another trainer. The trainer evaluated Mo and my boyfriend came home with a whole new outlook. The trainer told him that there was hope for Mo. He came home with a plan and some processes for Mo prior to training (with the new trainer) at the end of the month.
The amazing thing was the change in Mo. He was quiet. He was calm. He was settled.
My Point of View
Because my boyfriend had an energy around Mo that was indecisive, confused, maybe even given up, Mo was picking up on all of that and he was frantic. He was trying desperately to do the right thing or be the right thing and no matter what he just couldn’t get it right.
He’d been trained to heel…at all costs. So when we told him “sit” and then went about our day, he wanted to “heel” because that’s what I’m supposed to do, right? I’m supposed to heel. So, then we’d get aggravated because he wouldn’t stay put. But I don’t understand. I’m supposed to heel. Why do they think I’m doing the wrong thing?
Once my boyfriend got the information that he required and his energy shifted, Mo’s energy shifted. As Mo’s energy shifted, my boyfriend’s energy shifted more. And Mo’s energy shifted again. So much so that yesterday evening, with the kids in the house, Mo was lying quietly on a towel by the fireplace. How cool is he?!
Moral of the Story
Just because you are perceiving someone else’s energy…whether it’s freak-out energy, anger, dread or whatever else…doesn’t require you embody and express it. Just ask if it’s yours and acknowledge it belongs to someone else. YOU have total choice!
How does it get any better than that?!