I recently have had, yet another, experience of taking something personally. I was in contact with an individual who suddenly dropped off the planet, so to speak. The contact had been pretty sporadic to begin with and then “all of the sudden” it ceased all together.
Of course, I immediately went into the following types of pico-universes:
I must have done something wrong.
I hope I didn’t say something inappropriate.
They must not like me.
I’m bad, wrong and awful in some shape or form, right?
Really and honestly. None of that is actually true. It’s just what some of us have a tendancy to do.
But we are only looking at HALF of the picture. We are looking through our own lens.
We Each Have a Lens
Each person has a lens through which they view the world. I see through my lens. You see through your lens. The neighbor sees through his lens.
Everyone has a lens!
And THAT is the other half of the picture.
When we do like I did and make ourselves bad, wrong and awful, we are only looking at the picture through our lens. We are not accounting for the other individual’s lens.
Aren’t we cute???
We try to take on responsibility for the other individual’s lens! We’d choose that for WHAT reason?!
The truth is that there are a myriad of things playing into the above example:
Busy. Um..yea..maybe the person is just busy.
Maybe they are stuck in their own pico-universe about US! haha! (Interesting thought huh?)
Fear. Maybe they’re fearful or uncertain about how/where to move forward.
Across All Aspects
We do this in business. In our personal lives. With friends. With family. With co-workers. Business partners. Associates or vendors. The cashier in the department store!
We take on the responsibility for everyone elses lens!
Would you like to make a different choice now?
You can, you know?!
Just stop taking on responsibility for everyone and their lenses! That’s all. Choose to be aware of you and your lens. That’s all.
Everything that doesn’t allow you to choose something different, would you be willing to let that go?
One Conscious Chick!
How does it get even better than this?!